Hello again everyone, it’s Mic here.
Recently I was talking to my good friend Howie Fleischer over lunch and telling him about all of the things that have been going on in my life personally and professionally so far in 2014. I’d hoped this year was going to be a great one and one to remember, and it still very well may be, but it’s started out with more hurdles than I’d hoped for. But hey, that’s what keeps things interesting, right?
As I talked to Howie, I found myself with all kinds of thoughts, feelings, and emotions, ranging from….
-Blue Gurus recently celebrated 5 years in business. It’s a great time to reflect on how far we’ve come and focus on where we have to go.
-How it’s been too long since we took a vacation.
-How there are home improvements we’ve been wanting to do but have been putting off until we’ve saved up the money for them.
-How we had a scare with our dog Hinrich and thought he had cancer and might have to lose his leg (he’s fine…thankfully, they turned out to be fatty tumors).
-How one of Missy’s best friends was undergoing a very serious surgery for a rare condition.
-How I have had a general feeling of restlessness for several months and have felt “out of sync”.
It’s been a weird and uncomfortable place to be, to be honest with you. I keep telling myself “this too shall pass” and reminding myself to be patient and that smoother days are ahead.
As Howie listened and processed all of the things I was telling him, he laid this nugget of wisdom on me:
He went on to explain that the benefit of all of the things that have been going on is that it’s causing me to step back, think, evaluate, re-evaluate, etc. and will lead me to make decisions that will put me in a better place and frame of mind.
I think most of us go through times like this where we obsess over things and have trouble just letting things play out.
We say things to ourselves like:
I need to lose weight.
I need to work out.
I need to change jobs.
I need to change careers.
I need more money.
I need more free time.
I need more work/life balance.
I’m not happy with my spouse.
I’m worried about my kids.
My mother in law drives me crazy.
I need a vacation.
I need to do these projects around the house.
I want a new car.
I want a new house.
I want to move to a new city.
I want to take a road trip.
And the list goes on and on and on.
I’m not sure about you, but I often beat myself up because I know that I have so many things to be thankful for in my life…so many experiences I’ve shared…and so many more to come…but yet I can lose that focus, that perspective, and find myself wasting time thinking about things that aren’t really that important or will never even come to pass.
So the mantra that has played over and over in my head since that lunch with Howie is what I’m going to continue to remind myself…
You’re exactly where you need to be.
Now I’m off for that vacation I’ve been wanting to take. Missy and I are headed to Colorado Springs. Time to clear the mind and become one with nature!
What about you? What things do you do to get through the rough patches? What do you do on a regular basis that helps you keep perspective?