Post written by Mic Johnson, Blog Coach|LinkedIn Trainer|Social Coach|Rational Optimist|Jayhawk Fanatic|Sushi Addict|Cancer Volunteer
When I first wrote the title for this blog I imagined N’Sync singing “Why? Why? Why?” instead of “Bye, Bye, Bye.” The infamous boy band was on my mind after watching them perform at the MTV Video Music Awards the other night. I didn’t watch that by choice. My wife made me. I guess she wanted me to know very clearly that she would leave me in a heartbeat if Justin Timberlake came calling. But I digress….
I woke up this morning thinking about why it’s important to ask “Why?” Maybe I need some therapy on why I wake up thinking about blog post topics, but I’ll save that for another day.
With “Why?” on my mind, I started brainstorming around all of the different directions I could take the blog post. Then, as my wife Missy and I were getting ready, I ran the idea by her. And she not only said “I’m not even awake yet”, but then asked me (ironically, I might add) why I would write a post about the question “Why?”
I thought to myself, “She’s not a blogger. She doesn’t get it.” But maybe she will after reading this. (P.S. – Missy, if you’re reading this…I LOVE YOU!)
As kids grow up they ask “Why?” all of the time. Because they’re curious. They want to understand. They want to know why things are the way they are. Why things work the way they are. Why they have to eat their vegetables. Why they can’t go somewhere. Why you won’t let them go over to a friend’s house. Or why they can’t eat pizza every day.
I’m sure every parent out there has said “BECAUSE I SAID SO!” too many times to count. I know my mom did. Who knows, but maybe that’s where some people start to get the idea that asking “Why?” is a bad thing.
But I’m here to tell you…asking “Why?” is critical in business and in life.
I’ve always been a “Why?” guy. I want to know why things are the way they are. I want to know why things don’t work. I want to know why people are the way they are. In the end, I guess I’m still curious.
But I also ask “Why?” because I have a burning desire to make things better….for myself, for my wife, for my family, for my trusted and valued relationships, for my clients, for their employees…basically for those people in my life that I care about.
With the rest of this post, I want to share some “Why?” questions with you. Some are business related. Some are personal. Some are things that just popped into my head as I was writing.
I don’t have all of the answers, but my hope is that these questions make you really stop and think. Or inspire you to make a change for the better in your life or career. Or help you figure out something about yourself that you didn’t realize before. Above all, I hope they motivate you to start thinking like a child again and start asking “Why?” of yourself, and of others, more often.
Why are people at your company happy?
Why are people at your company unhappy?
Why don’t you spend time on developing your company culture?
Why do you work at a job you can’t stand?
Why haven’t you started looking for another job?
Why do you hang around people that bring you down?
Why do you think you can’t change your life for the better?
Why are you the way you are?
Why are you happy in your marriage/relationship?
Why are you unhappy in your marriage/relationship?
Why do you stress about things that never come to pass?
Why don’t you make time for yourself?
Why is your schedule so busy?
Why don’t you exercise?
Why do you think you can’t do it (whatever it is)?
Why don’t you reach out to people more often?
Why don’t you return calls?
Why is your email inbox your enemy?
Why don’t you take risks?
Why are you afraid of stepping outside your comfort zone?
Why don’t you have more meaningful conversations with people you care about?
Why do you spend so much time worrying about what other people think of you?
Why do you think you need a bigger house?
Why do you think you need to buy more stuff?
Why do you keep doing the same thing over and over again and expect different results?
Why do you think it’s ok to be mean to people?
Why are you happy?
Why are you unhappy?